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SPIDERS in Divorce
By J. Michael Kelly
March 2004

Congratulations You Married a Spider

What happens when you marry a spider? The spider dedicates their life to making you think your crazy, they dedicate their lives to destroying your person hood, your self confidence, your judgment, and your assessment ability.

Spiders see everyone around them as crazy, they also attempt to dominate by making you think your nuts that your parents are crazy and they hate your friends. They hate your friends because your friends prevent you from being infected by their insanity.

Spiders work best on you by having you alone, binded, and dependent on them. They do it with sex they’ll do it with drugs they’ll do it with hollering they’ll do it any which way it takes. If it takes anything they’ll do it. They don't care how much it cost because they will you use your money.

They’ll do it by having a kid to bind you to them, but once they have their fangs in your neck they will pump the poison in. Then people will try and get the spider fangs out of you, your mother your father your brother or your sister. All of whom you discard ultimately by being in the arms and legs of a spider.

Ten thousand webs to bind your legs your arms your ability to run. Ten thousand webs to blind your eyes, to tie down your mind. Spiders have you trust them so they can stick you with their fangs to suck you dry, and then just throw you away, because your no more use to them once they’ve dominated and captured you. They don't care if you scream while they suck you dry, it turns their sick mind on.

Spiders Spew Poison

Your person hood is the most important thing you have, you have to protect it and polish it enforce it. Fight like hell! Fight like the devil, because what you are facing when you marry a spider is another form of the devil.

Spiders have no discretion, they have no judgment. The only judgment they have is to do whatever it takes to get you. That is twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Spiders never take time from trying to mess up your life. All you have to do is think about it. They know exactly what to do to get you, to push your buttons.

Spiders take great pleasure in putting you further in their web, to bind your own self in the web. Dealing with colored and whites, they do it with colored dope they do it with color liquor, but they do it. The innocents say my God this isn’t like my mother was.

Like my father was, this isn’t like my first or second or third lover was, Jamie, or Nancy or Sheryl. This wasn’t like my first lover, Bill or Fred or Jack was. Oh my God but the spider dresses in such fines arraignment, such fancy clothes, and such a draw. And you just like a moth to a flame are drawn to your destruction.

Spiders Only Care for Themselves

They don’t even honor your destruction. Destruction is their meal, and they always need another meal. So if you think that by appeasing them one more time and then it will work out; it will not. They don't care if you die, only if you named them in your will or did not sever the joint tenancy title to the property.

You can appease spiders until hell freezes over and they’ll scratch on the ice and dump on you. You can appease them until you have no more arms or legs to run away from them, because your infected. Spiders will cut you off from your friends; so that you have no way to get advice.

Spiders can drive you to a psychologist but by God you can bet they won’t go to who can clearly see them. Spiders stay clear of them.

The mirror to which they can not be held up to is their psychologist. It is the neutral observer that they fear. They make sure that you know that the psychologist is out to get them as well as the friend who says "my God you are with a spider. "

You're with a spider who is really trying to do something bad to you, all this time while spinning their web. There is no better analogy as a spider.

You have to wake up, you have to smell the coffee, and you have to breath the fresh air of freedom. Spiders are working day and night to make sure you never get out the door never see the sunshine, never get to fresh air.

Spiders Love Dark Places

Spiders want you stay in their dank weather under their control. Houses disappear, money disappears, self-esteem, and your authority over your child disappears.

The most powerful spiders and are far more powerful than some innocent who had a good mom a good dad good upbringing. The most powerful spiders easily awe children.

There are few warriors in the world. Warriors with bright seals who can shine light into the spiders lair are what spiders fear the most. They will do everything they can to keep you away from them. When you are with a person, as a warrior male or female, they will not stop until they stab the spider dead.

Another thing the spider fears is a true loyal friend. No matter what you say or do and I request and beg you to listen. Don’t listen to what the spider says, look at what the spider is doing, web after web, golden promise after golden promise to be broken as a web.

Spiders cannot stand the light of an honest argument or feared comment. They don’t read, they don’t do intellectual assignments they are way to busy spinning their own web thinking their own thoughts.

Never going outside their own thoughts because spiders cannot afford to. They cannot afford to because their own thoughts are faults, and they to would see what they say are lies and full of deceit.

Calling All Heros

Consider this article to be a call, a call of freedom, a call of honesty, a call for truth, a call for children to have good accurate parents. You may have to leave a child behind with a spider because if you don’t you’ll have no life for yourself.

You’ll have twenty-five to thirty years of trying to get along with a spider who will never be able to assist you, who will always be crazy.

Spiders do not accept outside influence; can’t afford to read books, can’t afford to listen to critical radio stations, and can’t afford to get into intellectual discussions.

Spiders live on their gut, on their feeling; they live on their excess expression of emotion, which is anger and hate laced with poison.

You have to keep yourself from being affected. Go to a lawyer. Have him advise you. Spiders also give their victims bad advise, keep struggling, don’t talk to a lawyer don’t talk to a psychologist don’t talk to a advisor stay with me I know what truth is and what is best for you.

Then you have to take a look around at what they’ve done with their own life, what their accolades are, what things they’ve won, how many things they have achieved in life, and you will find a deep dark dank hole.

Interactions with good people, powerful people, honest people, religious people cannot be handled by spiders who’s’ purpose is to destroy you destroy your person hood at all cost at all times no matter what.

I Have Seen Generations of Spiders

This is an easy article, after thirty-five years of watching people come into my office and ask the obviously idiotic questions like "what is my spouse doing why are they doing this." I find it horrible. The simple answer is thay are doing it to get you, to destroy you to control you at all cost.

You have to reach for the solar shield of honesty, the slashing sword of truth and go after them directly, the same way they’ve been after you but you’ve never admitted it.

Oh those cuts were accidental they didn’t mean to do it, and those comments make me cringe because they are not true and they lead to the death of your soul.

Don’t get affected, spiders are perfectly sociologically constructed to have you think they are humming birds or eagles.

They suck you in and then when they suck you in, cut by cut, they begin to take your blood, your self-esteem your person hood but there not big cuts, they just small razor cuts all which cause the blood to drain from your frame. Your blood is their food.

Dead is dead, there are many dead mean walking is the phrase from the Louisiana’s prison about men on their way to death row.

Awaken America

America is full of dead men and women walking who went into a relationship with high hopes with the desire to have a long term life with children and things like that. This is a call to tell you "YOU ARE NOT CRAZY" you are simply married to a spider.

This is the call to point out to you that the person who took all the joy out of your life the excitement the youth is doing so intentionally for their own selfish purposes to make you one more meal.

The insatiable spider will throw the husk of your life away and get another one as soon as you no longer serve their purpose.

Spiders always want another chance. They ask for one more time and then cut one more slice. The spider will always cut because they can’t stop because they are driven by an insatiable appetite to crush other people.

Spiders Take Kindness as Weakness

Kindness does not work, generosity does not work it is simply more food for the spider. The only way you can stop a spider is to make a stand to say one more time not one more time plus one more time.

Keep remembering what I'm saying, generosity doesn’t work accommodation doesn’t work spiders don’t accommodate. They simply wrap more web around the victim and suck deeper and quicker. Your blood is delicious to them, quite savory.

Spiders take away your ability to be angry they make you insecure from being angry, anger is a good thing when someone is trying to suck on your bones suck your life eat your spirit alive all with a clever smile a soft touch and the phony forever look.

Evil comes from generations of eons a deep well of horrors and hatred generations of spiders. One spider making one more, making one more and more and more making people infected all of which dramatically affect the well being of the children it never stops,

Here is where the 60 percent of divorces come from, sane people connect with insane people. If you are with a spider and you stay you are infected and you too become part of the vast plan. Don’t let it happen to you! Trust your friends trust your psychologist trust your priest.

If you have priest who say God in heaven wants you to stay there I say the hell he did, There is no place ever written by God, not men, that says if you have a spouse that beats you; that is unfaithful; that lies to you; that destroys your spirit; that you have to stay with them show me where God said that, he never did.

Men who had the arrogance to interpret what they thought God meant for their own purpose or friends or spiders of course, Spiders usually say "I don’t know what he meant I don’t know how they could know what he meant."

Step strongly take a deep breath see if you can breath deeply anymore with the bounds with the binds of the spider webs around you, I doubt it. If this article resonates for you it’s easy because it’s straight from my heart to your heart.

Where Spiders Come From

Try to find out where spiders come from; check their mother. Female spiders have female spider mothers. Check the father. Male spiders have male spider fathers. Male spiders can also have horrible female spider mothers. Female spiders can have horrible male spider fathers.

Parental dysfunction that your spider has spoken to you about gives you a sign post. You are going somewhere to be eaten. Perhaps the person you are in a relationship with is a spider.

In the beginning almost all spiders are testing you by telling you how tough they had it all of a sudden you’ll find that you were exactly like their last relationship. But you said my God I can’t believe your last relationship treated you like that, and then the rescuer, you, comes forth.

I’ll save you, male or female, and of course that is how the spider gets you in their web. Once in the web you are dead. Get out of the web or prepare for the fight of your life to get out.

Some Spiders are Good Looking

Where do you think the 60 percent divorce rate comes from? It’s from not recognizing spiders.

Spiders dress in Barny Suits, they come with Oakley sun glasses, they sport Chanel perfume, they wear Gucci articles. They are also surf champions, ski champions, they come as models, they come as teachers.

And they come in a number of exciting conversations. Their physical beauty, their red façade, their quotes, however, never cover up their failure of achievement.

There are some with achievement, but very few, because they are not interested in achievement they are interested in sucking up souls of human beings. That is a full time job; there is not much time to breath.

Check their claims of production. Check to see if they got production credit on the movie, if they got production credit on the record, author credit, they always have excuses of someone who took advantage of them to blind you from what they are going to do to you.

Spiders Love Control

If they are not a spider they will let you be free, they will let you be you, they will let you have your habit’s within reason. True friends will support your honor your truthfulness your duty without question.

True friends will do everything they can do to support you and your life; which of course means you must have the courage to write down how you want your life to be.

If you find that you are with a person who does not support your life then you are with a spider, I am willing to defend that view with anybody anywhere anytime.

Do you have a spider or a supportive relationship person. Are you achieving your goals helped by the person your with or are you having to constantly fight and explain it.

Have they written down what it is they are willing to do to support you, have you written what you are willing to do to support them, have they written down what they are willing to do and what they are up to?

This article requires that you open your eyes. People who are not spiders support you in everyway they can. That will generate you supporting them in everyway you can.

It is required that every person in a relationship writes down what it is they are up to, what it is they are up to in the present time and what it is they are willing to contribute to the relationship in the future.

How can you possibly think the spider will fall far from the mother or the father, impossible? The statement "the acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree" is true, as well as all the other folkways and morays.

What you need to do if you are married or have a relationship with a spider is to fly right in front of the face of clear reality.

Spiders are very clever in sucking you in to say everybody else’s wrong I need to be defended, you need to defend me, be in a relationship with me.

Trust the other side if your logical. The people who are looking out for you have an investment with who YOU ARE. They just have an investment that you are happy, But to spiders their investment is drawing you in sucking you in and crushing you up in their web.

What Kills Spiders?

Attorneys kills spiders. However you have to recognize a spider has many, human disguises. Identifying spiders is critical and is important because if it is not done early on spiders will be busy crushing you up in their web.

Spiders attempt to hide in the guides of being helpful and they try to make you feel temporarilly wonderful. In the beginning of any relationship spiders almost always identify themselves but in a manor that does not move anyone into action.

They tell you snippets of their past, snippets about their parent spiders, snippet’s about how they were treated in their past relationship or two or three or four.

This always brings forth the challenge of being helpful to someone who doesn’t want help they are looking to eat you which is more madness in their self. Seeing a ten-foot carnivorous spider sitting next to you not running like hell, is also madness in itself.

The identifications are easy, parts of your spirit will be screaming bloody murder and trying to get you away from the deadly relationship your about to get in to or are in. Spiders have a capacity to encourage you to over look and disregard your true self, trying to warn you to get away.

True self always sees spiders in the smoke through the fire burning under hot trying to eat you alive. You then become just one more walking dead. You just shuffle to the dull drum of your particular spiders whims and will. No matter how strong you are you cannot lift the spider and have no future as long as your with them.

Spiders Take Care of Other Spiders

Spiders are expensive they are self-centered. Spiders are interested in taking care of their business not yours. Notice when they try to move an in-law or two into your house for just a month and it turns into four years you while you pay and feed them while they feed on you..

Notice that spiders will take care of their personal bills and obligations first, They will always use your good credit and connections. They will always charge their dinners with their friends on your credit card. They will also take vacations or go out without you.

Spider’s parents are always one hundred percent to the spider child no matter what they say to you. They have a brother and sister who has a drug problem, can’t keep a job, a lack of education and motivation problem, a series of bad marriages and or relationships that repeat over and over.

A great wizard once observing humanity made the following observation: “what insanity truly is, is for you to keep doing the same thing you’ve been doing for years and expect things to change”.

Generosity only feeds the spider’s sensational appetite for power over you control over your finances, and your lifestyle.

Spiders always have debilitating, negative, unsupportive comments all the time about everything, especially regarding your dreams and hopes.

They have no way to stop their spewing about everything and everything whether or not they know anything about the topic or the person.

It is important to note there is no gender determination with this writer. There are as many male spiders as female spiders who fit into that category.

Spiders are Smart

Spiders are highly skilled in inserting relationship words such as "our, we, us together, mutual, combined earning statements, joint checking." This is true so long as they a part of the benefit but none of the responsibility.

They are also highly skilled in identifying problems and dangers perceived almost only by them. They say you should have perceived the problem or take control of the defense of the problem. This is so that they can save you from themselves.

Spiders are controlling people as well as being verbal and emotional abusers. Control people give themselves the title of being anal. This self serving definition is like calling a cobra a grass snake or anaconda a large water snake. Anal is another term of people who want to control your life and their life control everything around their life control.

Spiders in Divorce

By J. Michael Kelly
March 2004.