A Parenting Plan is a detailed cooperative approach to divorced parents raising their children. To be effective, it should be detailed enough so that each parent realizes their rights, duties and responsibilities. Most importantly, it must be customized as much as possible to accommodate both parents’ work schedules and lifestyles.

The menu below lists many possibilities for both legal and physical custody. Please check the items that apply to your situation and provide for future growth. Children now in preschool will shortly enroll in elementary school. Fifth graders turn into teenagers before you realize it.

Feel free to modify any of the paragraphs so that it meets your needs.

LEGAL CUSTODY COMPONENT

A.  GENERAL UNDERSTANDINGS:

1. FREE CONTACT: It is the intent of this agreement that each of the parents shall exert every effort to maintain free access and unhampered contact between the child(ren) and the other parent.
2. MUTUAL RESPECT: Neither parent shall do anything which shall estrange or separate the child(ren) from each other or damage the natural development of the child(ren’s) love and respect for each of the parents.
3. MUTUAL RIGHTS: Both parents understand that parenting requires the acceptance of mutual rights and responsibilities where the child(ren) is/are concerned.
4. CHECKING UP:?Neither party will pump the child(ren) for information about the other.
5. SOLE LEGAL CUSTODY
   1. INSTRUCTIONS: Choose ~ Joint or Sole Legal Custody.
      1. DEFINITION - SOLE LEGAL CUSTODY: Only one parent shall have the right and responsibility to make decisions relating to the health, education, welfare and legal responsibilities of the child(ren).
      2. RIGHTS TO SOLE LEGAL CUSTODY: Petitioner/Respondent shall have sole legal custody in the matters relating to health, education and welfare of the child(ren) named above.
6. JOINT LEGAL CUSTODY
   1. DEFINITION - JOINT LEGAL CUSTODY: Both parents understand that ioint leaal custody means that ~ parents shall have the right and responsibility to make decisions relating to the health, education and welfare of the child(ren).
   2. JOINT LEGAL CUSTODY: The parents shall have joint legal custody which shall include the following rights and responsibilities. If those rights and responsibilities require mutual consent, failure to obtain mutual consent prior to implementation, may be considered in any future hearing regarding custody. Such actions may be considered a change of circumstances.
7. NOTICE-MEDICAL VISITS: Unless an emergency, each party shall inform the other and allow the other to attend any and all scheduled visits the child(ren) has with any health professional.
8. MEDICAL EMERGENCY CARE AND EMERGENCY VISITS: Each party is to notify the other parent as soon as reasonably possible, of any emergency medical attention the child(ren) receives. Reasonable shall be determined based on the circumstances surrounding the situation.
9. SCHOOL ACTIVITIES: Each party shall inform the other of and allow the other to participate in any and all activities that take place at the minor’s school including, but not limited to, parent—teacher conferences, report cards, scholastic and diagnostic tests, enrollment in enrichment classes, request for parent conferences, sporting events, plays, and other extracurricular activities that the minor may partake in at school.
10. DEFINITION: SCHOOLS: For the purpose of this section, the word school shall include any public/ private, day care, preschool, nursery, religious school, elementary, junior high, high school, and college, if the child is not emancipated.
11. EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES: Each party shall inform the other and allow the other to participate in any and all extracurricular activities that the child(ren) may partake in, including, but not limited to, athletic, religious, art, music or social events.
12. CHILD CARE: Should either party require child care for a period of hours or more while the child(ren) is in their ~iW~ical care, the other parent shall be given the first opportunity to provide the babysitting for the child (ren).
13. RELIGION: Each party shall keep the other informed of:
    1. CHOICE OF PLACE OF WORSHIP: The church/synagogue/temple or other place of worship the minor child (ren) attend.
    2. RELIGIOUS SCHOOL: The location of any religious school the child/children may attend, in addition to the dates and times of such attendance and the teacher’s name.
    3. RELIGIOUS EVENTS: Any and all events that take place at the child/children’s house of worship which the child(ren) are participating in, including, but not limited to, Confirmation, Consecration, Bat/Bar/Mitzvah.
14. WELFARE:
    1. REMOVAL OF CHILDREN: The parties shall not remove the minor child/children from the: (a) County;(b) State; (C) Country; without written permission from the other party, or further order of this court.
    2. PASSPORT CONTROL: The parties shall not obtain a passport f or the minor child (ren), without the express written permission of the other party or further order of this Court.
    3. NO OTHER NAMES: Neither party shall allow the minor child/children to use a surname other than _____________ without express permission from the other party, or further order of this court.
    4. TEEN ACTIVITIES: Neither party shall consent to the minor child(ren) participating in the following events, without the express written permission of the other party, or further order of this court; (a) Sex education classes; (b) Dating; (c) Attending driver’s education classes or obtaining a driver’s license before the statutory age; (d) Enlisting in a military service of any kind, including ROTC; (e) Viewing of movies/videos rated "R" or "X"; (f) Consent to marry.
15. OTHER CHANGES: Each party shall keep the other informed of:
    1. Change of child(ren)’s friends.
    2. Change in child(ren)’s style of dress.
    3. Change in child(ren)’s make-up.
    4. Change in child(ren)’s hair style or cut.
    5. Use by the child of controlled substances including alcohol and use of tobacco products including cigarettes, cigars, chewing tobacco or snuff.
    6. Child’s employment status whether full time or part-time.
16. LEGAL:
    1. CALIFORNIA - HOME STATE: Each party agrees that if the further court proceedings are necessary, California shall maintain jurisdiction provided one of the parties still resides in the state.
    2. Each party shall inform the other of:
    3. LEGAL ACTIONS: Any actions whatsoever, involving the minor child that take place in Juvenile, Small Claims, Municipal, or Superior Court
    4. DEATH OR INJURY:?Any actions by the minor child(ren) resulting in the death or injury to a third party (per CC S 1714).
    5. PROPERTY DAMAGE:?Any actions by the minor child(ren) resulting in property damage to a third party (per CC S 1714).
    6. VEHICLE DAMAGE OR INJURY: Any actions by the minor child(ren) arising out of the use of a vehicle resulting in property damage or death/injury to a third party (per Vehicle Code S 17708—17712).
    7. VANDALISM: Any actions by the minor child(ren) resulting in property damage to a school per Education Code S 48904.
    8. GUARDIAN AD LITEM: The parties must mutual agree on a choice of Guardian ad litem, if such an appointment is necessary.
    9. REFUSAL TO PROVIDE HOME:?Either parent must notify the other upon refusal to provide the minor child a home pursuant to Penal Code S 270.5.
    10. ABUSE OR MOLESTATION: If either parent is charged with child abuse, child molestation, etc., and the minor child(ren) are taken into the custody of juvenile authorities, the other parent consents to having the juvenile authorities release the minor child(ren) into the custody of the parent who is not being charged.
17. PHYSICAL CUSTODY COMPONENT GENERAL UNDERSTANDINGS:
    1. GENERAL FRAMEWORK: This alternating weekend schedule shall provide the basic framework f or the child(ren) to have contact with both parents, but this plan may be changed by mutual consent of the parents or shall vary as set forth in the following paragraphs. The parents should mark their calendars to identify weekends well into the future, but should also anticipate some changes will occur f or weekends pre—empted by such events as a parent’s birthday or share of a designated holiday. The underlying schedule of alternating weekends, once established, shall remain unchanged throughout the years, unless changed by agreement, or further court order.
    2. PARENT AS DOTE PARENTS: Each parent agrees not to attempt being both parents to the child (ren).
    3. CHILD AS PARENT: Each parent agrees not to force the child(ren) into playing the role of the departed parent.
    4. PARENT AS PEER OF CHILD: Each parent agrees to remain the parent and not play the role of "big brother" or "big sister".
    5. PARENT’S TALKING ABOUT DIVORCE TO CHILD: Each parent agrees to be honest with the child(ren) and tell them the reasons for the dissolution and what to expect in the future.
    6. SANTA CLAUS PARENT: Each parent agrees not to attempt in buying the child(ren’s) affections by purchasing gifts, travel to amusement parks, etc.
    7. PARENT VIEWED REALISTICALLY: Each parent agrees to let their minor child(ren) see them in their real life setting such as the home or apartment.
    8. MINIMAL DISRUPTION TO CHILD: Each parent agrees that despite the dissolution of their marriage, to disrupt their child(ren’s) lives as little as possible in the areas of house, school, friends, church and social organizations.
    9. FAILURE TO EXERCISE - NOTICE: In the event that the (mother) (father) is unable to see the child(ren) on a given occasion, he/she must so notify the other parent at the earliest possible opportunity. If a parent fails to arrive at the appointed time, the other parent need only wait for one hour before considering the contact to have been cancelled.
    10. FAILURE OF VISITATION — NO FUTURE WAIVER: The failure of (mother) (father) to exercise visitation rights under this agreement shall not be construed as a waiver of his right to exercise visitation at a future date.
    11. PRIOR NOTICE REOUIRED BEFORE EXERCISE OF VISITATION:?No less than days prior to each period of parental contact (mother) (father) must confirm the contact will take place as scheduled. If such confirmation is not timely communicated, the other parent may assume that there will be no contact and may arrange his/her schedule accordingly.
    12. PARENT’ S SCHEDULING CONFLICT: Each parent shall carefully avoid the scheduling or arranging of activities for the child(ren) which are likely to conflict with time allocated to the other parent. The parent who has the children for that period of time shall be responsible for insuring the children attend on going activities, such as athletics or extracurricular events in which the child(ren) participate(s).
    13. FAILURE OF EXERCISE - ABATEMENT: Should (mother) (father) fail to arrive on two consecutive occasions within a period of 90 days, without having given reasonable prior notice to the other parent, all contact shall thereafter abate until such time as either (1) the court orders that visitations be restored, or (2) (mother) (father) receives written notification from (mother) (father) sent by registered mail, return-receipt requested, advising that (mother) (father) wishes to resume the schedule as of a specified date (but not less than two weeks after such notification is sent) and that he/she agrees to exercise diligence in attending future contact with child (ren).
    14. FAILURE OP EXERCISE - PAYMENT OF COSTS: Should (mother) (father) fail to arrive on any occasions and the other parent is required to expend costs of transportation or is required to pay for child care, the negligent parent shall pay to the other parent the sum of $_______ as damages.
    15. TELEPHONE COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN: (Mother) (Father) shall be able to speak with the child(ren) by telephone no less than ?times each week and neither party shall hamper or interfere in any way whatsoever with the telephone communication or any other communication between the children and the parties.
    16. TELEPHONE COMMUNICATION BETWEEN PARENTS: Mother and father agree to schedule regular times to meet and confer, either in person or telephonically, in order to keep the other parent apprised of the child(ren) ‘s progress and to plan for the child(ren) ‘s future.
    17. CHANGES IN ADDRESSES. WORK. TELEPHONE. AND EXTENDED STAY: Each party shall keep the other advised at all times of his/her current residence address, telephone numbers (home and work), the child(ren) ‘s school, and the location of any place where the child(ren) will be spending any extended period of time (four days or more).
    18. TIME SPENT WITH CHILDREN - NO CUSTODY WITH THIRD PARTIES: During the time the child(ren) is/are with
        (mother) (father) will be expected to spend as much time??as possible with the child(ren). The child(ren) shall ??not be left in the custody or other persons except for??good reason, and in no event any of the child(ren) be ??left in other than a wholesome, home-type environment.
    19. TRANSPORTATION - SOLE RESPONSIBILITY:?The (mother) (father) shall be responsible for dropping off of the minor child(ren) and (mother) (father) shall be responsible for picking up the minor child (ren).
    20. TRANSPORTATION - OUT OF TOWN: (Mother) (Father) will arrange to meet each other at (name of location to exchange the child(ren) at (time) on (day of week), and pick up the child(ren) at the same location at (time) on (day of week). Each party shall give 25 hours prior notice of their intention not to be present at these times or make alternative arrangements. Each parent shall have one—half hour to be late if there has been no prior communication before the alternate custody period is waived or construing the lateness as an incident subject to contempt.
    21. TRANSPORTATION (OUT OF STATE BY AIRCRAFT SHARED COST: (Mother) (Father) agree to transport the child(ren by a recognized air carrier and shall insure that adequate provisions for child care are made on the aircraft including in flight assistance and baggage claim assistance. (Mother) (Father) shall personally deliver the child(ren) to the airport and (Mother) (Father) shall greet the child(ren) on his/her/their return. Each party shall provide one-half the cost of the round trip ticket.
    22. EACH PARTY PAYS FOR ONE TICKET: Each party shall arrange to pay for a one way ticket.
    23. FREOUENT FLYER COUPONS: (Mother) (Father) shall be responsible for going the (name of frequent flyer program). Credits obtained shall not be assigned but used by the child(ren) for future trip benefits or gifts.
18. ALTERNATE CUSTODY
    1. WEEKENDS (SPECIFIC): Alternate weekends from Friday to Sunday.
    2. MID-WEEK VISITATION: Each evening from p.m. to?#9; p.m., excepting holiday or summer visitation periods.
    3. WEEKEND FALLING ON THREE DAY HOLIDAYS: In the event that this period falls on a three (3) day weekend (legal holiday), the other parent shall have the children from 5:00 p.m. on the last normal working day (Thursday or -Friday) to 6:00 p.m. on the last day of the three (3) day weekend (Sunday or Monday). (Holidays which do not fall on a Monday or Friday shall be alternated between the parents.)
    4. OR-
    5. MARTIN LUTHER KING DAY: During odd/even numbered years from 6:00 p.m. the day before the holiday until 6:00 p.m. on the day of said holiday.
    6. LINCOLN’S BIRTHDAY: During odd/even numbered years, from 6:00 p.m. the day before said holiday to 6:00 p.m on the day of said holiday.
    7. WASHINGTON’S BIRTHDAY: During odd/even numbered years, from 6:00 p.m. on the day before said holiday to 6:00 p.m. on the day of said holiday.
    8. PRESIDENT’S DAY: During odd/even numbered years, from 6:00 p.m. the day before the holiday until 6:00 p.m. on the day of said holiday.
    9. MEMORIAL DAY: During odd/even numbered years from 6:00 p.m. the day before said holiday to 6:00 p.m. on the day of said holiday and thereafter in alternate even years.
    10. INDEPENDENCE DAY (4TH OF JULY): During odd/even numbered years from 6:00 p.m. the day before said holiday p.m. the day of said holiday.
    11. LABOR DAY WEEKEND: During odd numbered years, from _____ p.m. on Friday before Labor Day until p.m.?on Labor Day.
    12. HALLOWEEN DAY: During even numbered years, from p.m. until _____ p.m.
19. SPECIAL DAYS:
    1. MOTHER’S DAY: Each year to the mother.
    2. MOTHER’S BIRTHDAY: Each year to the mother.
    3. FATHER’S DAY: Each year to the father.
    4. FATHER’S BIRTHDAY: Each year to the father.
    5. CHILDREN’S BIRTHDAYS: Even years to Respondent. Odd years to Petitioner.
    6. EASTER/SPRING BREAK (SPLIT):
       1. During even numbered years from 6:00 p.m. on the Wednesday before Easter Sunday through 8:00 pm. on the day before school resumes.
       2. During odd numbered years, from 6:00 p.m. on the last day of school until 6:00 p.m. on the Wednesday before Easter Sunday.
    7. EASTER/SPRING BREAK (ALTERNATING): From 6:00 p.m. on the last day of school until 6:00 p.m. on Easter Sunday in odd/even years.
    8. THANKSGIVING HOLIDAYS (ALTERNATING - OPTIONAL): Thanksgiving holidays shall be alternated between the parents, with mother having the children on odd/even numbered years and the father on odd/even numbered years. Visitation shall begin at p.m. on the evening (Wednesday) preceding Thanksgiving Day, and shall continue until _____ p.m. on Sunday evening. Or:
       1. THANKSGIVING DAY:?Parties to alternate the holiday so that mother has the child/children on Thanksgiving Day in odd/even numbered years and father in odd/even numbered years from 10:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m.
    9. CHRISTMAS/WINTER BREAK (SHARED):?During even numbered years from 10:00 a.m. on Christmas Day until 8:00 p.m. on the day before school resumes. During odd numbered years from the time the children are released from school for vacation, until 10:00 a.m. on Christmas Day.
    10. CHRISTMAS/WINTER BREAK (ALTERNATED):?Entire Christmas vacation in odd/even numbered years to mother/ father.
    11. SUMMER VACATION: How much time you would like (ex., two weeks, 30 days, 60 days, etc). Note if you would like this consecutive or broken up. days or weeks; consecutive or not.
    12. INCREASED SUMMER VISITS: If child/children are young, we suggest a gradually increase such as (a) two weeks the first summer, three weeks the second summer, four weeks the third summer, etc.
    13. SUMMER VACATION (ENTIRE SUMMER): (Mother) (Father) shall have entire summer from one week after child/children are out of school to one week prior to return to school.
20. RELIGION:
    1. The parties agree to raise their child(ren) in the _____________ faith.
    2. The parties agree not to encourage the child(ren) to convert to a different religion.
    3. The parent having custodial rights on Sunday or Sabbath, has the right to bring the child(ren) to the parent’s Church, Temple, or Assembly Hall.
    4. JEWISH HOLIDAY SCHEDULE
       1. HANUKKAH: (a) If the holiday does not coincide the Christmas recess visitation schedule, or does not fall on a regular weekend or weekday scheduled visitation period, then during even numbered years from sundown the night before the first day of Hanukkah until sundown on the fourth day of Hanukkah. (b) During odd numbered years, from sundown on the fourth day of Hanukkah, until sundown on the eighth day of Hanukkah.
       2. Rosh Hashanah: If the holiday does not fall on a regular scheduled visitation weekend or weekday, then: (a) During even numbered years from sundown the night before Rosh Hashanah, until 8:00 p.m. the following day.
       3. YOM KIPPUR: If the holiday does not fall on a regular scheduled visitation weekend or weekday, then: (a) During odd numbered years from sundown the night before Yom Kippur, until 8:00 p.m. the following day.
       4. Passover: (a) If the holiday does not coincide with the Easter recess visitation schedule, or does not fall on a regular weekend or weekday scheduled visitation period, then: (1) During odd numbered years, first seder night; (2) During even numbered years, second seder night.
    5. OTHER RELIGIOUS HOLIDAYS. PLEASE WRITE IN:
    6. JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES VITIATION SCHEDULE:
       1. NON-CELEBRATION OF SECULAR HOLIDAYS: In order to respect the (Mother’s) (Father’s) religious beliefs, the (Mother) (Father) shall not permit the minor to celebrate in any fashion any holiday whatsoever, including but not limited to, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Fourth of July, Valentine’s Day, Birthday, Halloween, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, etc.
       2. NON-CELEBRATION IN NON-JEHOVAH’S WITNESSES OBSERVANCES: Furthermore, (Mother) (Father) shall not allow the minor child to participate in any way whatsoever in prayers, christening, baptizing, religious holidays, or any kind of religious observance or celebration unless agreed to by the minor’s (Mother) (Father).
21. DATING. REMARRIAGE and FRIENDSHIPS:
    1. The parties agree not to let dating others poison their cooperation over exchange of the child(ren).
    2. The parties agree to cooperate with the new spouse of (Petitioner/Respondent) in making custody exchanges of the minor child(ren).
    3. The parties agree not to speak disparagingly of the new spouse of (Petitioner/Respondent) in the presence of the mutual friends of (Petitioner/Respondent).
    4. Each parent agrees to share with the child(ren) the fact that they are dating as well as aspects of their new social life.
22. RESTRICTIONS:
    1. DEROGATORY REMARKS: Neither party shall use or make any derogatory or bad remarks about the other parent in the presence of or within the hearing of the child (ren). Petitioner/Respondent/Neither shall consume any alcoholic beverages, narcotics or drugs of any kind unless specifically prescribed by a licensed, practicing health professional hours prior to and/or during those periods of time spent with the minor child (ren).
    2. NO CONTACT: Petitioner/Respondent/Both parties are not to harass, molest, annoy or assault the other, nor contact the other at his or her residence or place of employment, or ___________________________________________ except when arranging for or exercising visitation in accordance with this Parenting Plan.
    3. CHANGE IN RESIDENCE: The parties agree that it is in the child(ren)’s best interest if they are able to maintain frequent and continued contact with both parents. This Parenting Plan is designed to provide such contact as long as Petitioner resides in ________ and Respondent resides in ___________• As such, if either party moves to a location within the State of California but beyond a radius of miles from the City where they presently reside, whether or not such party is desirous of taking the children with him or her, the parties shall put forth a good faith attempt toward establishing a modification of this Parenting Plan so that the child/children are able to continue to have frequent and continued contact with both parents. In the event the parties cannot agree, the parties are to return to Mediation and this Plan shall remain in full force and effect until changed by an agreement of the parties or Court orders.
    4. The parent providing the primary residence shall be free to change the residence of the child/children to any location within this State that the party deems appropriate. However, notice of any change shall be given to the other party at least days before the change shall be made to enable the parties to negotiate a modification to this Parenting Plan so that each party can continue to maintain frequent and continued contact with the minor child/children or return to Court prior to the move shall the negotiations between the parties break down.
    5. Neither party shall change the child/children’s permanent residence from the County of ____________, City of ___________, without the express written permission of the other party or further order of this Court.
23. REMOVAL OF THE MINOR CHILD(RENI FROM CALIFORNIA:
    1. At any time either party removes the minor child/children from the State of California or remove the children from their present residence for a period
    2. (___)?days, the other party must be given information so the children can be contacted.
    3. Such information shall include, but not be limited to, address, telephone number, and date of return.
    4. Neither party shall remove the minor child/(ren) from the State of California for a period exceeding ___ days without the express written permission of the other party or further order of this Court.
    5. Neither party— shall remove the minor child/(ren) from the State of California without express written permission from the other party or further order of this Court.
24. REMOVAL FROM UNITED STATES OF AMERICA:
    1. Neither party shall remove the minor child/(ren) from the United States without express written permission of the other party or further Court order.
    2. Neither party shall remove the minor child/(ren) from the United States without providing the other with:
       1. Address and telephone so contact can be maintained.
       2. Passport number
    3. Proof of a bond in the amount of $______________, to be paid to the other party upon commencement of any proceedings in this Country to secure the return of the child/children to this Country. In the event that the attorneys fees and costs incurred in securing the child/children’s return to this Country exceed the above— stated security amount, additional attorneys fees and costs may be awarded from the other parent.
25. PENALTIES FOR REMOVAL:
    1. If either party acts to remove the child/children before obtaining the express written permission of the other party, or the Court, or fails to give appropriate notice to the other party as provided for in this Parenting Plan, than that party shall be liable as follows: To indemnify the other party for all costs and expenses, including, but not limited to attorneys’ fees, witness fees, Court costs, transportation and lodging expenses of that party, witnesses and/or counsel incurred in connection with any legal proceedings initiated by that party, whether in this State or else where for the purposes of obtaining custody or establishing visitation rights; and/or
    2. If the parties had not already agreed that the relocating parent would be solely responsible for transporting the minor child/children and the costs thereon, then in the event that the relocating party is permitted to retain custody of the minor child/children the removing party shall transport the minor child/ children and be solely responsible for all costs of said transportation, including air fare, train fare and other public carrier fares necessarily incurred in order to continue to provide frequent and continued contact with the other parent. In the event the relocating parent fails to provide the other with the address and telephone number of that party’s new residence, the relocating party shall indemnify the other party for all costs and expenses incurred in finding the removing party’s new location, including, but not limited to, attorneys’ fees, travel expenses, investigator’s fees, lost wages and all other relatea costs.
26. DISPUTE - RESOLUTIONS:
    1. When mutual decision making is designated, or good faith efforts to resolve issues are required but cannot be achieved, the parties shall make a good faith effort to resolve the dispute through the following dispute resolution process: Mediation, attorneys where applicable, and judicial intervention.
    2. When a dispute arises, the parties agree that preference shall be given to carrying out the existing Parenting Plan and its goal which is to provide frequent and continued contact between the parties and their minor child/children. If the Court finds that a parent has used or frustrated the dispute resolution process without good reason, the Court shall award attorneys fees and sanctions to the prevailing party.
    3. If either parent shall deprive the other parent of visitation or child sharing time for a period of _____ consecutive days, or shall during any summer visitation period refuse to permit the non—custodial parents visitation, then the depriving parent, if the owner of the right to collect child support, shall be estopped from collecting such support. This is determined not to terminate the support order itself, pursuant to Civil Code S 4382, but to serve as an estoppel. Upon such termination of such deprivation of visitation, such right to collect shall be prospectively reinstated, without further order of the Court, as of the first payment on which the custodial is again in full compliance with the child sharing orders.
27. DECISION MAKING:
    1. Each parent shall make decisions regarding the day to day care and control of the child/children while the child/children are residing with that parent. However, major decisions shall be made as follows:
    2. Education: (Circle One)
       1. Petitioner/Respondent/Both parties
    3. Non—Emergency Health Care: (Circle One)
       1. Petitioner/Respondent/Both parties
    4. Religious Upbringing: (Circle One)
       1. Petitioner/Respondent/Both parties
    5. Unless a written agreement to the contrary is executed or further order of this Court, the child/children shall continue to be raised in the ____________ religion.
28. LIMITATIONS:
    1. SEX:
       1. Neither parent shall expose the child(ren) to any over or explicit sexual acts committed in the child (ren) ‘s presence or within the sound of the child(ren).
       2. Each parent agrees not to expose the EiiiI~(ren) to any sexually explicit or pornographic written material or sexual paraphernalia.
       3. Each parent agrees not to expose the EiiiI~(ren) to sexually explicit television programs, audio or video tapes, or movies that are rated ‘X’ or
    2. OBSCENE OR VULGAR LANGUAGE: Each parent agrees not to use obscene or vulgar language in the presence of the child(ren).
    3. DRUGS:?Each party agrees not to use any
       1. controlled substance which includes marijuana, peyote, amphetamines, morphine, cocaine, PCP, heroine, and all other controlled substances listed in Health and Safety Code 5 11054, 11055, 11056, 11057, and 11058.
       2. Each party agrees not to expose the minor child(ren) to any drug paraphernalia, such as scales and balances, containers designed for use or marketed for use in the storing or concealing controlled substances, hypodermic syringes, needles, hashish pipes, carburetion tubes, carburetion masks, roach clips, miniature cocaine spoons and cocaine viles, chamber pipes, electric pipes, air driven pipes, bongs, ice pipes or chillers, or other paraphernalia defined in Health and Safety Code S11014.5.
       3. Each party agrees that the other shall not be under the influence of any controlled substance during any custodial period with the minor child(ren).
       4. Each party agrees not to be under the influence of any controlled substance including alcohol ________ hours prior to and during custody of the minor child (ren).
       5. Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to have any contact with any known drug users, pushers, or sellers of any controlled substance.
       6. Should Petitioner/Respondent believe that the other is under the influence of any controlled substance at the start of any custody period, Petitioner/ Respondent shall be able to require a drug test prior to any further custodial period and shall be able to terminate the period, at the start of which the Petitioner/Respondent is under the influence.
29. ALCOHOLIC BEVERAGES:
    1. Petitioner/Respondent shall not ingest any alcoholic beverage in the presence of the minor child(ren).
    2. Petitioner/Respondent shall not store or have any alcoholic beverages within the reach of the minor child (ren).
    3. Petitioner/Respondent agrees to join and attend continuously a recognized local program sponsored by Alcoholics Anonymous.
    4. Petitioner/Respondent, prior to the commencement of any custodial rights to the minor children agrees to join a recognized alcohol treatment program and to attend said program until Petitioner/Respondent obtains a certificate of release or completion which shall be presented to the Petitioner/Respondent.
    5. The Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to drink any alcoholic beverage during the custodial period with the minor children.
    6. Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to drink any alcoholic beverages for _______ hours prior to and during visitation.
    7. Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to be under the influence of any alcoholic beverage during any custodial period with the minor child (ren).
30. GUNS AND OTHER DEADLY WEAPONS:
    1. Petitioner/ Respondent agrees not to possess, store, or use deadly weapons in the residence, place of visitation, or any other location in the child(ren) ‘s presence of the following weapons including rifles, pistols, machine pistols, machine guns, shot guns, or other deadly weapons as defined Penal Code S 12001, 12001.1, 12001.5, and 12001.20.
31. SAFETY REOUIREMENTS:
    1. Each party agrees to keep the residence of each parent child proof including covers on electrical sockets, locks on drawers containing poisons, solvents, kitchen utensils, medicines, cleaning agents, and plastic bags.
32. SAFETY BELTS:
    1. Petitioner/Respondent agrees to have proper infant seats or seat belts in all vehicles in which the minor child(ren) are transported during any custodial period.
33. SWIMMING POOL:
    1. Petitioner/Respondent agrees to maintain a secure, fenced area around the swimming pool at Petitioner/Respondent’s residence.
    2. Petitioner/Respondent agrees to accompany the child(ren) at all times while in the proximity of any swimming pool, lake, stream, or other swimming or wading facility.
34. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
    1. AGREEMENT NOT TO USE VIOLENCE: Petitioner/ Respondent agrees not to threaten or engage in physical violent acts in the presence of the minor child (ren).
    2. VOLUNTARY COUNSELING:?Petitioner/Respondent agrees to voluntarily submit to a program of counseling with a registered mental health professional in the event of more than one incidents of physical violence within months.
    3. DISENGAGEMENT: In the event of threatened or actual physical violence by Petitioner/Respondent, the parties agree to voluntarily disengage from meeting or exchanging child(ren) for _____ days in order to "cool— off".
    4. OBSERVERS AND WITNESSES: Petitioner/Respondent agrees to the use of neutral witnesses or observers, not including ______________________ during the exchange of the minor child(ren) in order to prevent any arguments, harassments, or threatened of actual violence.
    5. VIOLENCE AS CHANGED CIRCUMSTANCES: The parties agree that a pattern of violence occurring over ______ weeks shall be considered as substantially changed circumstances in order to justify the agreed party to return to Court for a change in the custody arrangement of the minor child(ren).
35. DENIAL OF ACCESS TO THE CHILDREN: AGREEMENT NOT TO DENY ACCESS:
    1. The parties hereby agree not to deny access to the other to their minor child(ren).
36. DISPARAGING REMARKS:
    1. The parties agree not to make disparaging remarks to or about the other in the presence of the minor child (ren).
37. THWARTING ACCESS: The parties agree that should the other party thwart access to the child more than occasions, that the thwarting party shall pay reasonable expenses incurred by the other party, including transportation expenses, such as gasoline, oil, lodging, meals, and alternative child care expenses.
38. LIOUIDATED DAMAGES: Should one parent thwart access to the child ___ times, the responsible party shall pay to the other the sum of as liquidated damages for the denial of access to thiiinor child(ren).
39. MEDICAL EXCUSE: In the event the custodial parent claims that an illness prevents a child from the exchange of custody, the custodial parent shall provide to the other a written medical excuse signed by a treating physician to substantiate the illness.
40. PHYSICAL PRESENCE OF CHILD REOUIRED TO VERIFY ILLNESS:?Petitioner/Respondent shall enable the other parent to physically examine the child should the custodial parent claim the child is ill, thus preventing a custodial exchange of the child (ren).
41. CONFLICT IN CHILD(REN) ‘S ACTIVITIES: Petitioner/ Respondent shall notify the other parent within hours of exchange of custody if the custodial eii3a~ conflicts with the child’s schedule.
42. PARENT LOADING OF CHILD’S ACTIVITIES: The parties agree not to load the child with activities that are in conflict with the other parent’s custodial period.
43. PREFERENCE OF PARENT OVER GRANDPARENT: Petitioner/Respondent agrees to prefer the other parent to the paternal/maternal’s grandparent for child care should the grandparent have the child for more than continuous hours in any 24—hour period.
44. DENIAL OF ACCESS IS CHANGED CIRCUMSTANCES: The parties agree that a pattern of denial of access shall be construed as "substantially changed circumstances" in order to justify a change in custody of the minor child(ren).
45. SABOTAGE OF PARENTAL RIGHTS:?A sabotage of parental rights by Petitioner/Respondent shall justify a reduction in child support to provide that Petitioner/Respondent shall provide medical, dental or health coverage only until the parties file a Court action to formally modify custodial rights.
46. BAD COMPANY
    1. CRIMINALS:
       1. Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to expose the minor child to known convicted felons.
    2. DRUG ADDICTS:
       1. Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to expose the minor child to any persons known to be addicted to any controlled substances including alcoholic beverages.
    3. ALCOHOLICS:
       1. Petitioner/Respondent agrees not to expose the minor child(ren) to any known alcoholics including persons who have been convicted of drunk driving within the past years.
    4. EXPOSURE TO HOMOSEXUAL LIFESTYLE:
       1. Petitioner/ Respondent shall not expose the minor child(ren) to a homosexual lifestyle in the presence of the minor child(ren).
47. OTHER ITEMS:
    1. Driver’s License Prior to Statutory Age: (Circle One)
    2. Petitioner/Respondent/Both parties
    3. Entering the Armed Forces Prior to the Statutory
       Age:?(Circle One) Petitioner/Respondent/Both parties
    4. Marriage License Prior to the Statutory Age:
       1. (Circle One)
          • [Petitioner]  [Respondent]  [Both parties]
    5. Dangerous Activities:
    6. Special Provisions for Decision Making: (If any)
48. TRANSITION GUIDELINES FOR ESTABLISHING OR RE-ESTABLISHING THE PARENT/CHILD RELATIONSHIP WITH CHILDREN - 10 AND UNDER:
    1. In the event there has been a prolonged period of time for whatever reason, that one of the parents has not had contact with the child/children, especially if the child/children are young, most experts believe that extended visits in these circumstances are not advised and that a transition period is important so that a foundation for a future relationship can be made.
    2. The duration of the period would depend upon the needs and ages of the child/children. Developmental needs that must be addressed are toilet training, preschool, day care, gender identification and the learning of limits and rules. Research indicates that it is not uncommon for parental separation to result in bed wetting, crying for unknown reasons, and other upsets and behavior. Some children react more strongly to a parental separation. As such, parent’s need to support each other’s roles as parents. Parents need to reassure their child/children that the other parent was not the cause of the separation.
    3. Bad feelings between the parties only work to interfere with the child’s relationship with the parties.
    4. The following has been successful as a transition period for very young children. Variations of this schedule should occur depending on the child/children’s ages and needs. Older toddlers and school age children may not need the other parent present except for the initial contacts:
       1. FIRST STEP (Your Consecutive Nonths~: One to two hour period, once or twice per week with both parents present?as?follows: commencing
       2. SECOND STEP: Six consecutive months following
          completion of the first four (4) months: One to two hour periods once per week, with weekend access as follows:
          • First two months every Saturday or Sunday for two hours from _________ until ______ commencing
          • Second Two Months: Every Saturday or Sunday for four hours from?#9; until
            commencing ___________
          • Third Two Months:?Every Saturday or Sunday for
            eight (8) hours from?#9; until commencing ______________
       3. THIRD STEP (Following Completion of Six Consecutive Months: Alternate weekends for 24 hours from Saturday at until Sunday at _________ commencing ________ A EE71Td should be able to adjust to a frequent contact schedule at the end of the transition period providing both parents have been regularly involved with tfle care of their child and there are no exceptional circumstances.
49. PARENTING PLAN FOR CHILDREN FROM BIRTH TO 18 months
    1. Birth to 18 Months: Children in this age group need frequent access to both parents. It is important for the child to bond with both parents so that overnight and extended time is comfortable with the child/children. The parent shall share the responsibility for taking and returning the child to each other’s house.
    2. During time spent with the child/children the Petitioner/Respondent shall attempt to provide the child’s needs, including, but not limited to, feeding, bathing, changing diapers, as well as playing with the child. Both parents must accommodate the child’s clothing needs during visitation. When needed, mother will provide breast milk. A child’s illness shall not interfere with the contact schedule unless medically advised. With this understanding, visitation shall be as follows:
    3. Birth to Six Months: One to two hour period no less than three times a week as follows: (Fill in the dates and times each week)
    4. Six Months to Twelve Months: Two hour periods no less than two times mid-week as follows: _____________ Each weekend from Saturday at?to Sunday at
    5. Twelve Months to Eighteen Months:?Two hour periods no less than twice mid—week as follows: Alternate weekends from Saturday at 9:00 a.m. to Sunday at 6:00 p.m. Upon age 15 months, alternate weekends shall be defined as Friday at 6:00 p.m. until Sunday at 6:00 p.m.
    6. Summer Vacation: From age 18 months to three years, a total of four (4) weeks, not to exceed seven (7) consecutive days at any one time. The visit shall begin from Friday after work of the receiving parent at,?until the following Friday at 7;0O p.m.
50. MISCELLANEOUS DAYS:
    1. Father’s Day/Father’s Birthday: To Father each and every year.
    2. Mother’s Day/Mother’s Birthday: To Mother each and every year.
    3. Child’s Birthday: To be shared equally.